Well, since some of us are strolling down memory lane with their wedding day stories, I’d like to share mine with you as well. My first wedding (yes first) was on July 19th, 1986. I was 20 at the time. If I had to do it all again, I would NOT have gotten married to this man. In fact, I almost called it off the week before the event. I came real close to telling my mother and I think she sensed it and started to remind me about how much she spent on my wedding … you know, the guilt trip thing. Anyway, my wedding reception had 550 people in attendance. That’s funny because I recall only having 500 people on the final guest list. I had a maid of honor, three bride’s maids and a flower girl. My wedding gown was white, of course (shut up KC and Dennis), and it had a 15-foot train. It was detachable for dancing later in the night. The guys wore gray and the girls wore pink. One thing about living in Hawaii, at most weddings here, people tend to incorporate many ethnic traditions into one wedding. For instance, at my wedding, my step dad who gave me away made the first toast at the reception. He did it in Japanese. There’s a Filipino tradition where the bride and groom dances and the guests comes up and puts money somewhere strategically on the bride and the groom is supposed to grab it with his mouth and put it into a container, usually held by the maid of honor. People were getting pretty much perverted, sticking dollar bills into my cleavage and such. Most of the night was spent on the dance floor on my part. It wasn’t until the next day where I heard all the stories that was going on at the reception. The funniest of stories were the long lost cousins on the hubby’s side that didn’t know they were related were hitting on each other. All in all, we made a nice small fortune … let’s just say enough for a down payment on a brand new house was made that night and then some. This marriage lasted 6 years … two years together, 4 years in court.

My second wedding was on April 14, 2000. Since I already had the huge wedding, we went small and intimate this time around. There were 45 people at the reception. This time was simply cocktails and appetizers. To this day I still don’t know what possessed me to marry this man … come to think of it, the other one as well. This sounds fucked-up but I regretted marrying this man the day after the wedding. Things went downhill real fast. Without having to go into detail of what happened, and I will get into that when I’m ready to, we split this past January … just a mere 9 months later. I’m still legally married to him only because the Army screwed me over. I have to do the paper work all over again and have his worthless ass served … hopefully sometime soon. Can I pick ‘em, or what? Live and learn, I guess.

I don’t know if I see a third one any time soon. Yeah, John and I have talked about it … hypothetically of course … I like when we talk hypothetically. Before we can even seriously talk marriage, we need to get our lives in order … he also has a divorce to finish … and we need to know each other better, amongst other things.

Well, enough walking down memory lane … it’s making me gag. I gotta go pee now, so I’ll end here.
Have a great weekend you all, and be safe.

Hapa

I don’t know why my son Chris neglected to tell me about a certain anthrax incident that happened at his school yesterday. Apparently a Sophomore did a dumbass thing by sprinkling baking powder with sugar all over some stairway at the school. He was arrested and now is in his parent’s custody. If I were his mom, his ass would be fired up as we speak. People do the stupidest things.

Ok, so Chris is headed to DC, Pennsylvania and New York next month. This makes me nervous more so now because of all the anthrax scares going on especially in those areas. In Hawaii alone we’ve had three post offices closed down because packages were found to be suspect. There’s supposed to be another parent meeting, an open discussion, to go over what precautions and such the administrators and band directors will be taking while on this trip.

I’ve been catching up on some reading lately … blogs written by friends … and apparently there’s some contest going on between the women. I’ve been given the rules of this game and I still say that pictures should be involved … preferably videos. It involves pleasing yourself with toys and from what I’ve been reading these women are into a specific toy that is manufactured in Japan. Guess what ladies … I’ll be in Japan in less than two years and I’ll be in the area that produces these wonderful mechanical devices … neener. I’ve discussed this contest with John and needless to say we are going toy shopping real soon.

Well, I am going back to watching my soaps, so I’ll be blogging later …

Aloha,
Hapa

Man, where do I begin? I’m just going to write whatever comes to my head at the moment. First, on the 10th made two months that I have been with John. In that time we’ve had three arguments … not fights, but arguments. Because of my stubbornness, I almost lost him the second time we had a gap in our communication. When we met, I had all kinds of walls up and I was going to be damned I let another man take advantage of me or hurt me in any way. John is very easy to talk to and he is very good in communicating. Somewhere along the way I kinda forgot how to open up and express how I feel. My pattern was simple … I kept things in until I couldn’t take it anymore and whomever I was with at the time felt my wrath. It’s refreshing to be in a relationship where I can express myself without being ridiculed or told that my feelings didn’t count. John is so easy going and relaxed 99% of the time. His life is simple and his motto is even simpler … you either love him or hate him. The people who love him he cherishes with all his heart and would do anything for them. The people who hate him (if there are anyone who does) are missing out on one wonderful human being, and I am lucky he loves me as well.

John’s mother and grandmother were here in Hawaii for a little over a week and just left yesterday. These women are two of the funniest people I’ve ever met. My daughter Sianna had a blast with them as well. The whole time they were here, they stayed on John’s boat that is anchored a Ko ‘Olina Harbor. He has a 30-ft (give or take a few feet) twin engine boat. He originally bought it for fishing although it is not quite a fishing boat … it’s more of a leisure boat. It has two bedrooms, a bathroom, an area for cooking, and an area with a table and chairs for eating. He also has a TV with a VCR. Up until last night we missed his boat terribly. John’s boat has been in dry dock for a month because his engines were shot and he was working on them. He finally got it back in the water the day before his parents got here, and we spent last night in it. He still has to do one more days work on it before we can actually take the boat out for a spin. I can hardly wait.

The people I work for just laid off hundreds of people, which eventually resulted in a closedown of one of their restaurants in Waikiki. That really sucks for them because they just opened it this past May. Now they’re talking about laying off employees at the restaurant I work at. These people, from what I now see, are laying off people not by seniority, but by performance. In a way I guess that is good, but these people who were laid off in the last few weeks were with this company from the get go and have practically dedicated their life to these people. They have put the company first with family and everything else second and they got laid off while a handful of people who were with the company a few months are still there. I’m talking about our management staff, and from what I hear, there was a lot of backstabbing going on. All I have to say is that what comes around goes around.

Well, Chris is still going to New York next month for the parade. There were talks going around about canceling the trip after what happened there last month, but made the right decision to carry on with plans. We shouldn’t let fear run our lives, and I am glad that the band directors felt the same. So, I went and ordered his thermal underwear and I just ordered some flannel-lined jeans from Eddie Bauer last week. I took him to Pac-Sun the other day to buy him a Hurley beanie (a reversible on at it too) … I still tell Chris that I look better in it than he does. I also took him last week to get his flu shot. No sense in spending all that money, practicing 5 days a week, and getting sick at the last minute then NOT march in the parade. He’s paying for it now … he’s been sick the past few days … a big baby too.

Well, dinner is ready so I’m outta here for now … catch up with you all later!

Hapa